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Active and Playful #LittleAdamBryce

With my active and playful, #LittleAdamBryce. Photo taken at our last out of town trip to Tagaytay, Charito by Bag of Beans last 11 September 2016, by Daddy Brian.

When you are a stay-at-home, hands-on, first-time mom to a Velcro baby, you probably get me. Your arms ache from holding him day and night. You adjusted sleeping with a 10-kilo weight on your chest where your baby sleeps. You miss preparing and eating an actual meal with both of your hands. You know no luxury of deciding what to do on nap time — he needs to stick to you in order to sleep. When he sleeps, you can’t move. You probably have your work on your smartphone, the only thing you can manage to operate single-handedly while pinned down on bed. I’m writing this lying in bed, cradling and nursing my son.

Constant need to nurse, want to be carried, sticks like a glue, light-sleeper, demanding, highly sensitive — these will probably spread yourself too thin, to the point of breakage.
I call it melt-down. I didn’t keep tabs how many times I snapped and broke down, feeling drained. But tomorrow’s another day for motherhood.
Some nights I can’t even brush my teeth, more so to shower. So when I do get my elusive break…
…here’s how I re-center myself and elevate my me-time and make it more special.

In the morning

Writing to-do list

Jotting notes and to-do list

Ideally in the morning, I jot down my random, scattered thoughts and ideas on a piece of pretty paper and gold-inked pen. It’s an incredibly effective way to release the noise in my head, and organize my thoughts. I feel calm when I can clearly read what I need to achieve. There’s a magical, fulfilling feeling when I’m able to tick off items on my to-do list.

In the afternoon

Reading a book with a cup of tea

Reading a book with a cup of tea

Probably my most fancy me-time is sipping a hot cup of mother’s milk tea with a book on hand. Currently on my reading-list is The Nesting Place. It’s teaching me that “someday” is now. Creating a beautiful home now, wherever we are.

At late night

Nivea In-Shower Skin Conditioner

Adding Nivea In-Shower Skin Conditioner to my late-night shower routine for a luxurious bath after a long, draining day.

Recently my son is forming a sleeping routine. By nine, he doze off while sleep-feeding. He sleeps lightly with a few tossing and turning, before finally having a deep sleep. That’s around eleven at night. When I successfully avoided to sleep myself, I sneak out of the room and into the bathroom.
Yellow lights and warm water puts me in a calm, relaxed mood. I elevate my routine and add a skin conditioner after my body wash or body soap. I’m currently using Nivea In-Shower Skin Conditioner. It’s creamy lotion formula activates as it interacts with water. It feels luxurious for me like treating myself to a body oil and body lotion in one. I use this quiet time as a therapeutic treatment to soothe my aching body and anxious mind.
How about you ladies, what do you incorporate to elevate your daily routine and to keep sane?

Mindful Mom Retreat

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Mindful Mom Retreat

With the trio of moms behind the Mindful Mom Re-Treat: Mommy Mundo’s Founder – Janice Crisostomo Villanueva, Registered Psychologist and Counselor – Michele Alignay, and Mommy Mundo’s Editor – Jing Lejano

mind·ful·ness /ˈmīn(d)f(ə)lnəs/

noun
1.) the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.
2.) a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.
Mindful Mom Retreat

My #LittleAdamBryce before the start of the Mindful Mom Retreat event.

The demands of being a mom, in my case a first time mom of a now 10-month old baby, can be overwhelming, especially if you encounter things for the first time and find yourself wondering how to handle each new concern. Sometimes you feel you have little control over a situation, or you have missed to make the right decision, or simply handling your thinning patience. If the stress of rearing a child is left unchecked, it can take a toll on your health, relationships, and state of mind —eventually leading to burnout.

When you’re burned out, it’s tough to do anything, let alone look after someone else —our husbands and our children. That’s why taking care of yourself isn’t a luxury —it’s a necessity.

Taking care of yourself isn’t a luxury — it’s a necessity.

If you don’t get the physical and emotional support you need, the stress of rearing a child leaves you vulnerable to a wide range of problems, including depression, anxiety, and burnout. And when you get to that point, both you and your child you’re caring for suffer. That’s why managing the stress levels in your life is just as important as making sure your family gets the caring they need.

Mindful Mom Retreat

At Mindful Mom Retreat in Aruga by Rockwell

In my case, I took the time out and took the first step into my self-care journey.

I joined other moms who seek to pause, reflect and be in the present moment by attending Mindful Mom Retreat by Mommy Mundo.

Mindful Mom Retreat

Mommy’s day out would not be possible without the support of my loving husband and baby!

Self-care is a call for Mindfulness.
It is to Be instead of to Do.
It is pausing, reflecting and being present in the moment.
It is a treat and responsibility to the self.
Mindful Mom Retreat

My #LittleAdamBryce is a certified #BeloBaby. 💙

“Taking care of yourself is part of taking care of your kids.”
Mindful Mom Retreat
“To be beautiful means to be Yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept Yourself.”
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Here are my take-away during this important event in my mommy’s day out.

Why self-care is important?

  • Moms are multi-taskers
  • Moms wear many hats
  • Moms are the nurturers & the family’s emotional anchor

Self-care allows us to…

  • recharge our body
  • declutter our thoughts
  • tune in to our needs and emotions
  • make the spirit catch up with the body

Practical Mindful Self-Care

  • BE present in the moment
  • Cease to OVERTHINK
  • OFFLINE CONNECTIONS are more important
  • Do not COMPARE
  • Choose your INFLUENCES
  • DECLUTTER your thoughts and emotions
  • Set your BOUNDARIES. Learn when to say NO
  • PACE each task, one day at a time
  • Identify matters you can LET GO of
  • Honor WHO YOU ARE

Self-care leads to…

…being a more loving mom and wife
…seeing life with a better disposition; clearer thoughts
…feeling “fairly treated”
…less risk of feeling “maxed out”
…being a mindful mom and living by our #mommanifesto
“When stress, tasks and life’s demands increase, so must be our mindful self-care.”
Mindful Mom Retreat

One of the many joys in my motherhood journey is exclusively breastfeeding my 10-month old baby.

Being mindful does not end in just attending one event about it. It is a continuous effort. It is a journey. To aid us in this journey, we brought home our mommy workbook so we can delve deeper into our being for more self-awareness. Being self-aware is “about understanding your own needs, desires, failings, habits, and everything else that makes you tick. The more you know about yourself, the better you are at adapting life changes that suit your needs.”

Essentially, the more you pay attention to your emotions and how you work, the better you’ll understand why you do the things you do. The more you know about your own habits, the easier it is to improve on those habits.
Thank you again to these mommies who organized this event! I’m looking forward to the next one!
Mindful Mom Retreat

With the trio of moms behind the Mindful Mom Re-Treat: Mommy Mundo’s Editor – Jing Lejano, Registered Psychologist and Counselor – Michele Alignay, and Mommy Mundo’s Founder – Janice Crisostomo Villanueva

Wonderful photos by my wonderful husband: BrianSahagun.com